The Kendrix Family

Hello, my name is Tatiana Kendrix. I'm a mother of an 8-year-old boy. In 2 months, I will have another baby boy. Yeah, that's right, I'm pregnant; if it comes as a shock to you, believe me, it was a shock for me. I'm going to tell you that crazy story in a bit, but first I want to talk about my first son. Tyrieq is a sweet, loving, smart boy with some learning disabilities. Everyone asks me why I won't put him on disability. He qualifies, but I don't want my son to think that taking his medicine is all he needs to do in life. I want to raise men of great stature who will hold their own no matter what they're going through. I want them to know how to ask for help but only when they actually need it. Tyrieq's dad has never been in the picture, sadly, because he is constantly in and out of jail. Due to this, I could never get him on child support, so in all my 8 years with my son, I never got the help I needed. I got TANF for a little while when I was pregnant. But, I didn't have his info. So, I was deemed as not trying to help. Which isn't the case because I would love to get him on child support or at least get some type of assistance. My son's father has told me, several times, that he did this on purpose. He thought that if I had his baby, I wouldn't leave. He was so wrong because the child became first. This was his choice, not entirely mine. But, I chose to have the kid because of my morals. I am grateful for that decision. He is such a blessing. His father keeps saying that he wants to be a part of his life but when it comes down to it he can't. With his drug addiction and being in and out of jail, he can't be consistent or stable as a parent. Now for my current situation, I am dealing with. I have a high-risk pregnancy. It requires me to avoid hard work due to high blood pressure and excess fluid. The new baby has a good father that is ready to be a part of both his son and my son's life. He helps where he can. But, he recently left his job due to discrimination. They were belittling him and his work. He was helping but now he is having rent trouble and having his own situation to figure out. He doesn't live with me and we won't be living together until we are in agreement about certain things. So now with that being said everything is falling back on me now. I have asked my family for help but they wanted that money right back after borrowing it. This caused me to slip further into delinquency with my car note. Capital One may take my car if I can't pay the whole car off which is $10,774 or come to correct standing with my contact($1,185). My pregnancy will end in November. Then, I can return to work and earn money to support my family and myself. I really need help now, or I'll lose my transportation. I am sure you are asking why I didn't prepare for this and the truth is because I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 19 weeks. Since the beginning of the year I have been in a manic episode because I'm bipolar. I felt bad the whole time. I thought it was my high blood pressure or bipolar disorder because I have those, whether the baby is here or not. I didn't know there was a life inside of me until I went for my next depo shot 3 months later. I am a woman who has cryptic pregnancies, meaning that my body doesn't show the signs until I am fully baking. I had no issues until I got to my 4-5th month of pregnancy. This was when I was finally going to the doctor when she told me that heavy work was restricted. So ever since then I haven't been trying to work more and have stuck to my low Income job with my one elderly client. She only gets 12 hours a week so it's not enough for all my bills. I am a home health aide. I was about to get a job with SSA Gulf when she told me I was restricted from high-performance work. That job is pure hard labor. I plan on going to that job once I have the baby but that's after. I am currently enrolled with Cornerstone University for October classes and will be getting assistance from the Pell Grant but it doesn't cover it all. The total Tuition is $18,120 and 7,000 will be paid but that leaves $11,120. I am ready to start living life and stop running from it.  So the reason I didn't prepare is because it was sudden so please help me if you can concerning my pregnancy. As for my Student Loans I know I will need them so I figured that I would ask for assistance with this as well.. I only ask for assistance when I am in need. My family won't help and I have no one else to turn to. Thank you for reading my story and your time.

Sincerely,

Tatiana K